[atouchofheaven]

well, my son was younger when placed and he had problems that disrupted our lives. he's our first so it only impacted us instead of potentially hurting other children, so we could handle it. but i have to say, it was worse than i thought it would be. and harder than i thought it would be and my son was only 15 months when we got him. now he's 2.5 and still a handful (although much better than he was). i think every kid is different and there are certainly kids that adapt and adjust better, faster, and easier than others. i would be more concerned, if i were you, about temperment. i think that has a lot to do with the behaviors you will encounter. my son is fiesty, willful, and a fighter, so when he acts out, it's aggressive. other kids may retreat inward, get depressed, and that sort of thing. you might have better chances with a more mellow or easy going kid. just my opinion and i only have one experience to base it on. but i mostly agree with everyone else that foster kids can be disruptive and you never know what they'll bring. a child can be seemingly very easy then 6 months later, have HUGE problems. fostering is always a risk.