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Thanks so much for the info. Today I received more info, and I've pretty much cried my heart at. Unless our FD's mom asks that she remain with us instead of the other family we will be loosing her. Worst thing is that the adoptive parents of the siblings have stated to the case manager that she is not going to tell the kids they are related. If our FD gets placed back with her mother, it appears that the adoptive parents of the siblings will not let them have contact as they do not want the bio mom knowing anything or being around them. So our FD will still not know she has siblings. The saddest thing is this mentality defeats the purpose of bringing siblings together. I understand that the adoptive mom wants to protect her kids and is hedging her bets that the bio mom will not get FD back, but if the mom does, than an injustice is being done, our FD's best interests will not be met and the move will be in vain. From the beginning we knew that our FD had adopted siblings, and were told that we were considered the best placement for her as she does not know them at all and than this happens. It's heartbreaking and at this point, I don't think we will be fostering again. Poor leg work was done on the part of the agency and there has been extensive erroneous information that we received. I give kudos to those of you who can do this over and over again and thank the heavens for you. For us, we will look at going the straight adoption route. Thanks again for the info and all you do.
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