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I think if your planning on having a VERY open adoption. Then it's something that you'd definately want to discuss before hand. Especially if your planning on breastfeeding at the hospital before she's signed over her rights,or even during the visits with the birth mother after.

Like others have said not many people are even aware it's possible for an adoptive mother to breastfeed. It could be quite a shock. Out of respect for the birthmother I'd want her to know upfront to make sure it's something that she would feel comfortable with.

Even then I probably would offer to feed the baby breastmilk in a bottle (during the visits) if I felt it would make for a more comfortable relationship. I'm sure it's hard enough to watch the adoptive mother be called mommy and such, let alone for the birthmother to watch the intimate, motherly act of breastfeeding. Especially if she is going through the process of trying to dry up her own milk.

If your planning a more closed or semi-open relationship where the birthmother won't be witnessing it then I wouldn't put it out there unless the birthmother brought up the topic of feeding in particular. Then it's something I would feel compelled to share with her.