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Realistically, even though people ask "how do you do it" all the time, it's really hard to answer. It's just the way my life is; I don't know any different, so I'm not sure how to answer the question.
Here are some things that make it possible for me: I have a job with very flexible hours. If I need to take the morning off for a pediatrician appointment, I do, and I just make the work up after the kids go to bed. I have a reasonable salary, and that lets me hire a cleaning lady every couple months to do the big jobs. We can eat out frequently, which helps, too---there are just some nights I'm not up to cooking.
I do a load of laundry every day so it doesn't build up. I have pretty much given up on dating, but I have a warm circle of friends that pitch in when I need them. Seriously, the other foster parents in my circle have been a godsend---I could not do this without their support and help and care.
(Actually, other than having my sweetie son and my other kids in my life, the best thing about fostering as a single mom is that I have made such incredible, awesome friends through fostering. I honestly think that foster parenting just attracts a better class of people---more generous, more honest, more caring, and all around cooler than the average group).
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