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Originally Posted by JustPeachy
I am not trying to be antagonisitc (I hope my question doesn't come off this way), but I would like to ask the amoms if they were unable to breastfeed for whatever reason, if they would feel comfortable letting the birthmother breastfeed their child. What about another woman altogether? A wetnurse or friend or other relative? Or another amom who had induced lactation?
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I think we're about to mix apples and oranges, but I'll answer this one from my own perspective. I've already (jokingly and in light hearthead conversation) thrown out to my sis that if her 2nd is born around the same time we place that she could pump for us. (nice of me, huh...hey wanna share sis
) Does that idea bother me..no not at all. Does the idea of using medically screened banked breast milk bother me...no, not at all...espeically given the current issues coming forth with formula and all. Should any mother be denied breasteeding her child or making the deisions she feels benefits her child, no IMO. If I'm my child's mother do I have the right to do that if I feel the need to? My child will indeed feel the warmth of my skin, smell my skin and feel my heartbeat as I feed him or her....so I guess my thought is when does one become a mother able to add one last element to that above and simply breastfeed if she so chooses? Why should any mother be stopped from making her choices that benefit her child. I guess this is where those lines start to blur in this world of 2 mothers and trying to keep things balanced. Do we place with those unable to give the gift of blood, if God forbid there's a crisis those fluids would run through a child's body just the same. I still have compassion to that feeling of
It's mine to share alone but I don't totally agree with it and could get flamed for my intial unshared snap thoughts on it, but I'm allowed those personal feelings just the same and I can grow from them. My gut says it all goes back to being honest upfront and being at peace with your choices for the big picture (before and after placement).