Thanks guys. I had to get out of the house last night to distract myself and calm down so I didn't become a raging mommy.
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Sounds like the frat guys might be trying to justify their actions through the group think approach
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Yeah, this is always what has concerned me about the whole frat thing. It can just seem a little like Lord of the Flies at times. ;p Of course, hubby was in a frat at USC, but since he founded the chapter there, he never had to go through the pledge process.
Hubby was ready to kick some Greek hiney last night. He told J he wouldn't interfere unless J asked, but he has got his back anytime anyday and would happily have some man-to-man with the guy who lost his temper, the chapter president or the head of greek life. (and hubby is a baaaad buff dude and one protective papa- don't mess with his boys. He once made a guy's lip quiver at the veeerrry close "conversation" he had with a guy who intentionally tripped one of J's friends when they were out celebrating J's 16th bday.
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Really, J is the last person in the world to judge. Umm, his parents are only 16 and 18 yrs older than him. It's just that he and his couple closest friends are committed to waiting as long a possible because that's what they want to do for themselves. I asked J last night if he ever thought
not having sex or
not doing drugs would be so hazardous to his health. He said "NO! I didn't!" We had a good laugh about that one.
I told J I was proud to be his mama rather than the mama of one of the boys who posted that nasty stuff on the internet or the guy who blew up in defense of strip clubs.
He's not perfect by a long shot. He can be lazy, self-centered, emotional. But one thing he does do well is stand up for himself and what he believes. He does respect women and conduct himself like gentleman. I remember him asking me in the 8th grade if kissing a girl was a "gentlemanly" thing to do. I told him it all depended on who it was and how you did it.
