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Originally Posted by binkybear
Is it ok for me to say that as a PAP there's quite a lot on "my" mind as well? Hoping that there's not an impression out in the world that "I'm" just carefree, worry and trouble free while nilly willy taking on the role of parenting another woman's child. I hope not.
I've gotten that idea out here more than once and it's a little "ick" to me too. I think it feeds into the overwhelming guilt many paps feel. I'd like to see the "perhaps" extended equally to us all in the vien of goodwill and assuming the best of each other? Perhaps the OP had good intentions (seems she did/does as noted in her later posts) and perhaps we're all more alike than not when entering into adoption.
To the OP: I'd go with your gut, it's our best indicator and yours originally told you to disclose up front. As far as profiles go...who knows..there's no real indicator of how to do it or who you'll please! If you go back in similar threads some will say that things like this in a profile are too much saying they don't and didn't want to see such deep subjects in a profile and others wanted full disclosure. I'd go with my gut.
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Binky, you can go thru my 1,700 plus posts and you will find that I have never implied that adoptive parents are “carefree, willy nilly” or anything else. I refuse to get into a “my pain is worse than your pain” debate. I haven’t been in your shoes nor have you been in mine. The OP asked a question of birth mothers. I answered from my point of view and my experience. So, ya…feeling a lot of “ick” myself right at the moment.
BTW, there are only two of us that have responded in the negative and one in the positive. I'm sure there are many more that would find adoptive parent breastfeeding a good thing. I'm just not one of them.