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Originally Posted by paigeturner
and yes, perhaps an expectant mother should proactively ask, however, having been there I can tell you that there is a lot on an expectant mothers mind when she is working through the idea of placing a child.
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Is it ok for me to say that as a PAP there's quite a lot on "my" mind as well? Hoping that there's not an impression out in the world that "I'm" just carefree, worry and trouble free while nilly willy taking on the role of parenting another woman's child. I hope not.
I've gotten that idea out here more than once and it's a little "ick" to me too. I think it feeds into the overwhelming guilt many paps feel. I'd like to see the "perhaps" extended equally to us all in the vien of goodwill and assuming the best of each other? Perhaps the OP had good intentions (seems she did/does as noted in her later posts) and perhaps we're all more alike than not when entering into adoption.
To the OP: I'd go with your gut, it's our best indicator and yours originally told you to disclose up front. As far as profiles go...who knows..there's no real indicator of how to do it or who you'll please! If you go back in similar threads some will say that things like this in a profile are too much saying they don't and didn't want to see such deep subjects in a profile and others wanted full disclosure. I'd go with my gut.