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Originally Posted by belleinblue1978
I'm sorry I gave you that fear..... To me, breastfeeding is a deal breaker. If you used a kind of diaper I didn't like, well that is my problem. Something HUGE though, like breastfeeding, that would have made me change my mind. Know why? Because I did ask my child's adoptive mom and she knew I didn't like it. If she would have taken him home and breastfed him after she told me she didn't plan on that.... can you see that?
I think you need to think about what you consider the BIG things that you really care about. Chances are an expectant parent thinks those are really important too. So talk about them. I'll be honest, agencies and attorneys don't always give the best advice about what to discuss.
You have to understand too that I am adopted and I have been active in adoption reform for quite awhile. I knew what I wanted for my son and I made sure that I matched with people that wanted those things too.
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I definitely can see what youa re saying, especially in light of the fact that
you asked her. And I am not saying that it should be "hidden" I just didn't know if e-moms considered it something they "didn't want to know about" or something big.
You did scare me to death. Like crying and feeling my heart pound kind of scared. I would *never* lie to an e-mom to try and keep a baby she would otherwise not have placed with us. I would never intentionally lie by omission with the intent to decieve either.