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I allowed a Christmas visit the first year, and then never again. Transportation was not an issue since A. was old enough to walk to the place where they supervise, so I figured "why not"? Well, I'll tell ya why - my Christmas was completely ruined by a crying, raging child because it triggered every possible negative emotion you can imagine - especially the part where the visit was over and his little brother and sister were taken away again. So the next year I said absolutely NOT. He had his regular visit the Tuesday before, Christmas was relatively peaceful (still some negative emotions) and then I stuck him on a bus on Boxing Day and sent him to spend a week with his grandparents 200 miles away. The distance away from the immediate bios was probably the best possible thing for him - he still needs to re-process was Christmas means, since his always involved drunken-ness violence.
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