[curiositykitten]

Several months ago I found my bdad on myspace. I sent a message asking if it was in fact him, and saying that I would like some health information. I never got a reply and I didn't pursue it further.

I got an email from my bmom saying that she contacted him. I didn't ask her to, hint at her to, or give her a reason to think I wanted that. Several months ago when I sent her the myspace page she ignored my email asking if it was him.

In the email my bmom said that she called to ask for some health information because she knows there is serious health issues on his maternal side of the family. She said that she couldn't get this information from them and that his wife is standing in the middle of the situation pressuring him against this.

I just don't understand, I didn't ask to meet him, and if I was a big evil person I could have just messaged all his kids on myspace. Why is it so difficult to get health information and what's the problem with just letting someone know?

My bmom said she would 'try again' and I don't know if it's worth it, she thinks he will come around in time. I'm still in shock she even called him because I didn't give a hint or ask her to.