[EZ2Luv]

I just wanted to chime in here to say that it is not uncommon in the Guatemalan culture to ask friends and family for money. Guatemalans are very big on helping each other in a time of need. My friend V from Guatemala is always being asked or money from family and friends. So though it may seem strange to us, this is something they do. Most of the time it is not big deal if you say no. It is like if you can do it , you do it, if not it's OK.

I cannot imagine the bind you all feel when you get these requests. While it is nice to be able to help someone in need, you shouldn't have to be made to feel like you owe these people. Yes, they did care for your children, but t hat is a job that they chose to do and were paid for it.
You also have to be VERY careful of other friends and family of the foster mother asking for money(as stated above) where computers are shared.
It truly is a tough situation to be in and I echo that you are wise to check things out.
Then too if you do send money , it will be very hard to stop if asked again. It could be become a habit. V told me that once you do send money it will more or less be expected each time they ask. That is why if you say no from the start it will be no big deal, but if you do expect more requests because they take it as something that you arte more than willing to do.

God wants us to be charitable but He also wants us to use wisdom and disernment in doing so.

EZ