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They just don't understand
Nobody can understand what it's like to be adopted unless they are. For me I feel that I have to search. I've been angry and depressed for over 20 years and no amount of therapy is gonna help that. I think I need to find the answers in my past, and fill in the holes as it were. I need the complete picture.
What makes me angry now are the people who know nothing about adoption who think they have my "best interests" in mind when they tell me that I shouldn't be allowed to search or to have the answers. The agencies charge you exorbitant fees and try to justify it by saying that it takes time and $. Well I doubt that anybody doing the searching is getting $100 an hour, so somebody is making $$ off that. Also I feel that it's a deterent to searching. Not to mention that all the info they give you is "what is in the best intrest of the adoptee and everyone involved", so you have no guarentee of getting anything. And how do you know that what you got was even true? How do you know the agency is covering something up? I feel that the whole process is an insult to my intelligence and disrespectfull of adult adoptees in general.
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