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Old 12-01-2008, 08:48 PM
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Originally Posted by thelowlanders
What do you find most helpful for your Fchild after visits? Is it cuddling and reassurement? Or keep busy w/ some fun activities? What have you found to work best for your little one?

hmmm...well, my answer isn't too relevant with my then-14 year old, since all I could do was stay out of his way and let him rage ;-) However, I know from his little brother and sister, the foster parents found that they really needed to keep things as NORMAL as possible. So yes, distract them a bit, but not with anything "special". At first, they'd take them to McDonalds as a "treat" on the way home, and behaviour actually escalated. They found they had to get back to routine as fast as possible, so the kids felt secure. I guess it depends a bit on what specific behaviours you are experiencing...with FS's siblings it was always anger and acting out. I'd guess a child more sensitive and sad might do better with extra cuddling...
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