[lovemy2boys]

Hi guys,

Hope you don't mind me popping over with a question...It's something I've been thinking about for a while, and today it came up again in another thread...Now, I ask this out of genuine interest - not to make waves...

I know many firstmoms feel that making an adoption plan because of finances is not a good reason...but is it a valid reason?

I know that finances change, and where you will be 5 or even 2 years from now is not necessarily where you are RIGHT now...I know that there is financial assistance available...I know that money should not be "the" reason to make an adoption plan; but is it not valid? I mean, even though there is government assistance, it seems to be extremely difficult to obtain as of late! My SIL works for our county and says that she can't even TELL me how many people she has to turn away...

What about the people that have no home, and can't get into a shelter because it's full? What about the people who are turned down for food stamps/health care/utilities because they don't qualify? Or that can't get child care or an education, let alone a job?

What happens in the time frame between pregnancy and when they are on more stable footing, financially? I HATE to think of these women placing for solely financial reasons...but what if they can't "see" any other options out there?

I know I've touched upon this a while ago, but when looking through my old threads I just can't find it...

And please know that I am NOT "challenging" anybody's feelings - I've just been thinking of these girls/women who HAVE no financial options, and can't see past the dark into the light...Especially in these hard economic times when EVERYONE seems to be struggling...

Thanks in advance, guys - I really am interested in your answers, and finally after all this time worked up the nerve to ask...

ETA - After re-reading this post, I realize that it "sounds" argumentative, but please know that was not my intention - it was just how my thoughts happened to go down on "paper"