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I would start by opening up communication with your mom about why she thinks the aparents stopped sending pictures/letters and why visits were terminated. You had hinted that perhaps it may have been something that your mom did. I would try to learn more about what happened before making a move. After reading your post, I'm also wondering if your mom has attempted contact with the aparents over the years, since this did begin as an open adoption.
After getting more background information, it is totally your decision whether or not to make contact. If you do choose to contact your sister, I would definitely wait until she is at least 18 years old and at that time I would contact her directly and not monkey around contacting her aparents. I would also recommend speaking to your mom before contacting your sister as this would potentially involve her in the reunion as well. Does her husband know about your little sister? This would be another thing to consider in this situation.
Best wishes to you. You sister is very fortunate to have an older sister who wants to know her and has loved her from afar throughout her life.
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