[nannyisme2004]

This is a tough one. I had DS's FM ask for money just this summer after DS had been home about 6 months. She claimed her husband had been in an accident and needed money for an operation on his leg. I had my suspicion because her and I had been in communication almost every month since DS came home and this particular email didn't seem to have been written by her. For me, in the nicest way I could I told her I was unable to help financially now or in the future. And then a couple of weeks later I heard from her again as if she had never asked me for money so I questioned her about it. Apparently what happened is that her husband got into her email and wrote the email to me without her knowing. She was so embarrassed and was glad I had not sent any money to him because he had sent me instructions on where to send money.

At any rate, do what you feel is right for you and your family. I think you are right in asking more questions to get further information. DS foster mom and I still in contact 14 months after DS came home. But I would never feel obligated to send her money. I don't owe her anything else. Yes, she took great care of my DS. And I am grateful and will be forever.