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Originally Posted by beenthereb4
Thanks for the quick replies - I agree this is his thing but I am only invovled as he has asked me to be and in a previous relationship he had no support - I have told him I will stay as a silent partner and support him but he has said that he would not do this if I was not doing it with him - I also agree with LMN that there may be feelings he is not verbalizing with me - but when you say this is his thing how do I support him if I cant help him when he wants it??
Should I respond to her emails?
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I think it is awesome you are so supportive. So many of us adoptees have difficulties finding that "safe place" with others when it comes to this stuff.
I think she is trying to "bait" you in a way, and if it were me, I would tell her she needs to only contact him.
He will share her emails with you, Im sure, and you can figure out a response together. I suspect (and I hope Im not right) she could also try and put a wedge between you and your partner, and make him "choose sides", per se.
By having only him respond to her will make it perfectly clear to her.
Good luck- reunion can sometimes be a scary place for all involved.