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My home visit is Monday, and I'm freaking out!
Our home visit is in one week, and I'm starting to panic! We live in a 100+ year old house, so it's not perfect. It has peeling paint in spots and needs a gutter replaced and so on and so on ...
Last week my DH was off work for the whole week, so we got one important project finished and two projects to the "acceptable" stage. I was so proud of how much we got accomplished, but now ... now that our home visit is happening in ONE WEEK, all the remaining projects and clutter and imperfections are glaring and hideous. We also need to add more smoke alarms, get a fire extinguisher, relocate all the power tools out of the reach of kiddies, etc. How can we possible get this place ready in just one week???
I know social workers aren't looking for perfection. They just want to know there's room for a child and that it's safe for a child, right? But I'm scared there's something I'm not seeing. I'm worried that what feels to us like a warm, inviting house will seem like a deathtrap to someone not used to old houses.
What stuff do you think is the most important to concentrate on in the time we have left? The exterior makes the first impression, but the SW will spend the most time inside the house (as will the baby). Our bedroom is adjacent to the baby's - will the SW want to see it? Does it matter if the baby's room still has extraneous clutter in it, or will that make it look like we aren't making room in our lives for a child? Will they want to see the laundry room? The office? The guest bedroom?
Has anyone had a SW tell you you have to fix something and then they come back for a second visit? Has anyone had a home visit during the middle of a renovation?
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6/08 Decided to adopt
8/1/08 First meeting with home study agency
8/19/08 Fingerprints
8/19/08 Signed contract with facilitator
11/21/08 Facilitator officially began showing profiles
11/20/08 Home study paperwork complete
12/15/08 Home visit with social worker
1/7/09 Home study finally complete!
1/09 Profiled and spoke to bmom for sibset of 3 ... had to back out
3/09 Profiled and spoke to bmom for 6yo boy ... not chosen
8/09 Failed match for 4yo boy ... bparents changed their minds when we were on our way to meet them
8/09 15yo cousin considered placing baby w/ us but decided to parent
9/09 Failed match for 7yo boy ... dad decided to fight mom for custody rather than sign consent
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