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Old 12-01-2008, 02:01 PM
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Are you suggesting that we allow her to move back in?

Heck NO! But then again, I wouldn't have supported/suggested she move in to start with. There are a LOT of services out there to help her - but you CAN NOT (and should not) support/raise your child's birth parents.

I suggest drawing your line in the sand. Have the 'hard talk' (I had to do that this past January)...

"Anna, I'm sorry, regardless of what we do to help, you do not seem to be doing anything to help yourself. You have until XX to do XX or we will have no other choice but to stop trying to help".

You can lead a horse to water - yadda yadda yadda.

Remember, however, that once you've opened the door - it is VERY hard to close it without hurting someone...but you have to do what is right for YOU and YOUR FAMILY - and as much as you want to help and support her, she needs to help and support herself. You didn't adopt her. She isn't your responsibility.
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