[kittymom]

Arrggh, these kinds of comments make me furious. When I mentioned I was adopting, a girl at work acted horrified and actually tried to talk me out of it, suggesting surrogates and IVF. She said she just couldn't imagine parenting a child that wasn't "hers." I said in response that biology doesn't matter to us at all and changed the subject. That's what I tend to do with these people - change the subject and scurry away quickly before I show how mad I am!

And, like others mentioned, the "how could anyone give up their baby?" comments. I got one of those from my mother-in-law last weekend. I can't remember what I said - I know I tried to defend bmoms in general but I was caught off guard. I need to come up with a good response to that comment, because I have a feeling it's going to come up a lot.

My feelings about bmoms are very different from the general public, because of all the research I've done about it. It's natural for people to think about their own children and not be able to comprehend placing that child with another family. But I feel it's my duty to educate people about bmoms - how they're not selfish drug addicts, how they LOVE these children and are actually supremely UNselfish!