[MamaKnkids]

Originally Posted by sergekel

Hmmm....

Congrats to all the new teen parents!

A little off topic...but on the foster forum I posted that I have a 15 year old bio daughter and this weekend past met a 17 year old boy that I recognized from a state photolisting. I really liked him!

I ran my concerns about his age and my daughter's age past the foster forum and not one had a positive comment to say about it.

Pretty much it was agreed that I'd be putting my daughter and the boy at risk of temptation of being sexually attracted together. This was my concern...but I think I sort of expected more support than not about taking a waiting teen in.

Have you all who are recently adopting teens..and I notice that they are within a couple of years of an opposite-sex child of yours....considered the possibility of sex acts between your teens?

I want to do the right thing...to protect my children and to offer a home at the same time. Ack. Why are decisions so hard??

I called the boys case worker on Monday....left a message and haven't heard back. So, maybe that's my answer right there on whether or not we should pursue him. I'm not going to call again. If it's meant to be, they'll call me.

Thanks for your thoughts.

Well.. my new daughter is 16, and my oldest bio son is almost 15 - and honestly I am not concerned with our situation at all. Our daughter has not had any history of acting out sexually, however. I would have concerns with some of the teen girls we've met - but not this one. And my son sees her as his sister already. One of his friends' mom made a comment about how pretty our daughter is, and that she hopes my son knows she is not a "built in girlfriend".. (GRRR) and my son was VERY offended by that comment. He feels protective of her already, almost like he is the older one.

I think with some teens, it could for sure become an issue. It would depend on both kids in the home.

Also - you can establish firm rules like we have -no boys in the girl's room, no girls in the boys' room - they can talk from the hallway or in the common areas. Nobody walks around half dressed. Locks on bathroom doors, etc.

Best of luck to you. Teens need a family, too, and good for you for considering this boy.