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Originally Posted by nurse_reedle
I *absolutely* do not ever forget that. I am getting a sense that we as prospective adoptive parents shouldn't think about these things or should just be so grateful for a chance to parent that we should just over look the things that are important to us. I already care *so much* about any future children we have, that I can't back burner important issues to me. I am certain there will be an expectant mother that appreciates the fact that our decisions, and in turn her decisions, are very, very important to us. Important enough to not shy away from talking about.
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I was not referring to you, and I appreciate that this is an important issue for you. I agree it is important to discuss this with prospective matches. My concern was that some posters (by no means all, or even most) give me the impression that they think the emom should have very few rights. There may be some birthmoms who have relinquished easily and without pain... I personally haven't met any. Again, the process of adoption has changed so much in the 36 years since I experienced it. Scamming, for example, at least by women who were pregnant or pretending to be, was to the best of my knowledge, non existant. You all face many challenges in your quest to adopt and I wish you well.