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Originally Posted by NicoleP80

Most hospitals DO NOT do circ's. They are usually something scheduled at the Peds office these days or done, if at a hospital on an out patient basis and usually done a few days AFTER birth.

So I think you are safe that your son (if a son) will NOT be circ'd once born. UNLESS it is something stated in writing by them birthmom I would not worry about it so much.

This has not been my experience at all. Ty was circ'd at about 30 hours old (the agency called us in a panic and said the bmom had signed the papers, and they didn't think to tell her that "we" should make that choice. We were on the fence, and were ok with the choice being "taken" from us)...all my nephews were pretty routinely circ'd too. My sister had two girls, but had to sign a circ waiver in advance for her file if she didn't want it done So that's hospitals in NH, MO, VA, and DC. None of them were small hospitals on even in small towns actually. Two of them were leading hospitals in 100 radius I would guess...I wouldn't rely on "it likely won't happen" if it's something that's important to you.

If having a son that is not circ'd is important that is totally your right. I wouldn't discuss it early in the match as others have suggested...I would discuss it PRIOR to matching. I would discuss it face to face with bmom (or on the phone) rather than rely on an agency or 3rd party to as well. We've all heard the stories on how information doesn't get relayed correctly before.

If bmom and you agree before hand, it shouldn't be a problem when the baby is born because you won't be dictating what the bmom does...it will be what she wants too.


Best of Luck!