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Originally Posted by nurse_reedle
I am seriously wishing I hadn't even asked. I have REALLy, REALLY strong views on circing. My issue with it in the adoption world has more to do with my relationship with the birth mom than my "ability" to parent a child that is circed. I asked because I *didn't know* how that worked with newborn adoption. Because I have such strong feelings on it, I had to know in advance of the situation occuring so that I could have it resolved inside myself....my own feelings about that being out of my control. This is a MUCH different adoption experience for me, I have questions...and some might be unusual...I can't help that...and there are somethings that are important to some people that seem very inconsequential to others. I am sorry that my question is so disturbing to you. I am not trying to be petty or hurt anyone's feelings.
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Please, don't feel bad about asking! Now you know that this is something that could be out of your control. Or, you are going to need to match with an expectant mom that you are comfortable enough talking with who is on the same page as you about circ, or at least willing to not have him circ'ed to respect your wishes.
There is so much though that the expectant mom might do that is not something we would do during pregnancy, or even during L&D (I have some friends that are very anti-epidural, you can't really tell an emom not to have one) we really do have to give up a lot of control.
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Most hospitals DO NOT do circ's. They are usually something scheduled at the Peds office these days or done, if at a hospital on an out patient basis and usually done a few days AFTER birth.
So I think you are safe that your son (if a son) will NOT be circ'd once born. UNLESS it is something stated in writing by them birthmom I would not worry about it so much.
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I think this might depend on where you are. Caleb was in kind of a rinky-dink old-school hospital, and it was done almost exactly 24 hrs after his birth, in the hospital. It seemed very routine, like they always circ the babies, at least that was the vibe I got.