[EZ2Luv]

I also agree that money should never be involved in an adoption as far as bmom getting help from PAPs.
Because there is money involved it will always be a motivating factor and considered coersion.

I think though in the case of a scammer it is different. See the lack of nationwide laws make it very easy for emoms to circumvent and get financial help on the premise that they know they can simply say they changed their minds.

That fine line is there and say am emom has no intentions of ever placing but she goes and plays the agency and PAPs for thousands and then plays the entire scene inviting PAPs to the birth ect. Has teh baby and just either avoids PAPs or changes mind. Not saying deciding top parent is ever a bad thing, just to already know that you fully intend on parenting from the start.
In that case the Bmom should be made to pay some type of restitution if it can be proven that this was her plan. However it is aVERY difficult to do.

Now in the read that this intially started at, I believe there were a few red flags where the emom was caught lying. IMO hard as it might have been, the PAPs should have cut off the cash flow and let the agency handle it and call them only after the baby was available.

No one like the term "buying a baby" and I hate it myself, but sadly, this exactly what these agencies are doing along with the lack of these laws.

There should be no money outside of an agency fee that PAPs pay and nothing from PAPs to emom.

The scammer emoms that use their pregnancy to make money should be punished. I am talking about the ones who promise multiple couples their baby and are recieveing money from them.

Most emoms would think of their baby first and not what they could grab from PAPs.
I am sure the Bmoms here would much rather see the PAPs and APs use whatever money they had for their children.

Meanwhile there are things PAPs can do to reduce the probability of being scammed and one is walk away at the first red flag as hard as it might be. Only work with states that have laws set up to prevent emom expenses. Find an agency that has a plan in place for this or handle emoms needs themselves. And lastly only consider baby brorn situations.

Until then, the way things are, there will always be scammers that know they can get away with this.

To me there is a BIG difference between simply changing their mind, and scamming. The agency that the PAPs are paying big money to should do their job and know what to look for.

EZ