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Originally Posted by Janeytwo
What I'm saying is that they shouldn't have to feel like that. When my Uncle asked what I meant by my comment, I simply repied that the only person they owe a college education to is their children - not their children's parents.
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Janey, when I was pregnant at 16, I was approached by the Chairperson of the Department of Psychology at a renowned university in La Jolla, CA. He and his wife wanted to adopt my baby really badly, and they offered to pay for my entire undergraduate work if I would do an independent adoption with them. They also dangled the possibility of paying for my graduate work, too, if I decided to go on for an advanced degree. The professor had known me since I was 13 years old, at which time I was taking university courses thru an experimental gifted-child program. When he heard thru the grapevine several years later that I was pregnant, he decided he wanted my kiddo.
I did consider the offer for about 3 days or so. But it really grossed me out, for some reason. First of all, it felt like they wanted to buy my baby. Second of all, it was too weird that they were focusing on genetics...after all, if I had started doing college-level work at 13 years of age, chances were good that my child would excel academically. (I knew that was one of the reasons when they kept asking me about Mike's IQ and academic achievements.) And lastly, I was really worried about why they weren't going through an agency. It wasn't like the waiting lines were real long back then...my son's parents only waited 5 months after their initial application before he was placed with them.
Anyway, to make a long story short, I told them no. I knew that at 16 years old, I couldn't judge their fitness. I wanted whoever adopted my child to go through a rigorous screening. So in the end, I decided the County Department of Social Services would most likely be the hardest screener. And the rest is history, as they say.