[EZ2Luv]

I know it can be irksome, but seriously, these people are clueless and just spouting words. These are the very people that probably will have kids that screw up in life and they have no one to point the finger at. I remember people saying stuff like that to my Sweet Momma and she just smile and say "I know,God chooses His own ways to create a family and I am so blessed" and then she would just say under her breath" Talk to me in 20 years"

My point is, no one can know for sure how their children will turn out. Some of the addicts that I treat come from the best most loving good families. There is simply no way of knowing. We can try as parents but there is no 100% garentee.

See my Momma knew that that was just foolishness and that people will always have somethink to say about just about anything. The best way to cut them shortis to eaither say nothing or just agree with them followed by something about God. Most people will find it hard to even continue the conversation that way.
Quite frankly it is no body's business how a family comes to be. Do we ask people with biokids how the conception of their children came to be? The where and when and details of it? No. So that it how stupid those comments are.

Believe me you can drive yourself nuts with foolish comments if you let it get to you. At the end of the day, you have your family and you love them. No one can dispute that.

Lastly, not everyone is as excited and pro adoption or even know anything about adoption as those of us in the adoption comminity so they are bound to make comments. Unless someone is genuinly sincere it is not our job to educate them either IMO.

EZ