[melissa_bear003]

Originally Posted by AlisonMarie

Oh, yes, that's coercion. I don't think money should be involved at all. And if there is, it is the aparents loss. They shouldn't have given it in the first place.

I just don't think money should be involved. If the bmom can't work due to pregnancy complications, there are programs that can help with that, and aparents should point the mom in that direction. It's not the aparents responsibility, in my opinion.

BUT, if there is, the bmom should not have to pay it back, it's the aparents loss for giving her the money.

If paps are simply handing over money, that's one thing. But when its part of the agreement of the match that they pay health care, living expenses, etc, I don't see why it should be their loss.

Again, I completely agree that there shouldn't be that onus on the paps...but the reality of it is, I've read several threads where people have spent tens of thousands of dollars...and somehow, I just don't think its fair that its, "oh well, too bad for you."