i think that even "normal" kids in foster care are going to have some abnormal issues. when children lose their families, culture, home, lives, everything, there will be some residual effects for some time to come. merely spending time labelled as a foster child is very hard...even for a three year old. be sure that your agency is talking to you about problems children may have as a result of these tremendous losses. that being said, i have met plenty of children in foster care, or children that were adopted from foster care, in this age range, who have minimal issues that would be seemingly "normal." but all of them have loss issues.
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we can't handle a child that would severely disrupt our home with extreme behavior or serious issues.
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sometimes, behaviors and issues take a while to come out. sometimes, workers are less than honest about what they know about the issues and behaviors. we had this happen to us with our first placement.....after that, we decided, for us, that we would only take kids in birth order to "help" protect the children already in our home. but even doing that is not a guarantee. my guy eli is almost 3 now...he has been with us since he was 10 months old. as far as we know, he was not a victim of any type of abuse. however, i am pretty sure i see some signs of loss issues with him.....he also has sensory integration disorder which causes LOTS of disruptions in our routine...and sleep. sometimes his behaviors are very stressful. sometimes he is very agressive. and we've had him since he was an infant. so you just never know. all kids are resilient.....but all kids are different. how they will bounce back and heal is so different from child to child....even those that are more normal than others.
good luck.
