[belleinblue1978]

This is taking from a discussion on the aparents board about pre birth expenses for emoms.

First of all, I'd like to state that I don't believe in expenses. I wouldn't have and didn't take any money from my son's parents. There is help available and people can work when pregnant.

However, the idea that paying a couple back for expenses should be mandatory if a woman, man, or couple choose to parent is upsetting to me. There were people that felt that wasn't coercion. To me that smacks of coercion. When many women I know place based pretty pre dominantly for financial reasons, of course the threat of having to pay back money would be reason to place. I know, of course you can say, well if she thought she might not place she shouldn't have taken the money to start then. Well, we all know that people that are POSITIVE they will place sometimes change their mind, so you really can't say that either.

Isn't coercion if you don't do A then B will happen? And B probably isn't going to be too pleasant?

Money for support should just be left out of the question. All it is is agencies preying on people in difficult situations.