[melissa_bear003]

Honestly, it reads as though you've engaged in a power struggle that you have no hopes of winning.

What you think should be appropriate for a parent whose child is in care, and what the social worker deems appropriate are obviously very different things. It does read as though you view foster care as a punishment for the parents. Its not meant to be...its meant to give them time to concentrate on whatever needs to be corrected to be able to parent their children appropriately.

Its little things like the (against my wishes) in the OP that make me think that you've gotten into a power struggle point of view with them. Your desires have nothing to do with their child's hair cut.

That's the tough part about foster care. You're there, loving and raising 24/7, yet have no real control. You go where when you're told. You don't really get a vote.

Foster parenting is a hard, hard road.