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Originally Posted by nurse_reedle
Thanks! And...I think it is. I feel bad about that...but I seriously think it would bother me to be in the position of explaining about adoption and then to also expain why she did somehting we so intensely disagree with and did not have done to his brother. Maybe it is the wrong view...but I feel pretty strongly about...actually feeling sick to my stomach at the thought of one of our sons being circed for a reason that was not imperatively medically necessary.
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There are first moms that don't want that either, I didn't.
BUT, if it is a baby born situation and he is already circ'd, seriously, if you really want to parent, you just explain that his firstmom and possibly dad, had that done because it was something THEY felt strongly about. It's ok that kid's firstparents have strong feelings too.
It isn't the end of the world to be different when you are brothers. My brothers are different, they've both grown into men who I'm pretty sure don't care that much that one is and one isn't. Trust me, now that we are adults, our differing political views and things like that are WAY more important.
A baby shouldn't be less loveable because of a piece of a skin. As an adopted person, I get a sick feeling in MY stomach when conversations seem to turn to I couldn't parent a circ'd baby because I disagree so much.