[HopingforAlex]

I have read a few of your posts Lowlanders and I think perhaps you were misled in training. Everything we are told is that while a child is in Foster Care and therefore a ward of the state, whatever their biological parents want for them, they get. BECAUSE the ultimate goal is reunification. So if bio mom has too many appointments or is missing visits, the best thing to do is document them. Contact your case worker and tell her you are no longer able to drive your Foster Child to and from visits with bio parents.

It is then up to them to make those arrangements.

On the flip side, if your bio child was removed for whatever reason (and there's other reasons than being weak parents or drug abusers)... and you were fighting to get them back, if you saw a bump on them or a bruise or a fingernail that wasn't growing how you remember it, YOU would probably demand mulitple trips to the doctor as well. Even if there is nothing wrong, taking your foster child can only alleviate unwarranted fears by her mother.

I know it's annoying and it doesn't fit into your schedule very well... but there are options.