[thelowlanders]

I know it is my responsibility to care for our Foster children's needs. But when bio parents request multiple extras, is it mandatory that I do them? We already go to town and drag all the kids out of their routine 3 times a week. Do I really have to obey their commands of more appointments. Some examples I seem to be bullied into doing:

Extra doc visits when bio mom feels necessary (Won't let up on concern for bumps doctor has said are fine multiple times.)

Trip to barber to have 10 month olds head shaved (against my wishes)

Wants appt. at Sears for portraits for Her smile saver program.

Oops, missed visit, but demands make up one. (And gets it after I'm told in parking lot she won't be able to make it today)

And many more.....

So, all the while, I'm dragging 3 other children along, out of their happy routine, To comply with her agenda. We, as a family, signed on to welcome these children into Our family life, plus their visits, and anything they need to be provided. Need is the key word. I understand bio-mothers rights, but didn't sign on to appease her. Am I wrong to feel that if they want to obey her commands, They should take her to ...portrait appts, head shaving appts, etc.

I personally feel that if you mess up, have your kids taken away, you're lucky to get to simply visit them until things get straightened out. I would never imagine demanding so many things. And then.....actually getting them or foster parent is reprimanded. The one who is helping your children.

Where am I allowed to draw the line?