I apologize for saying that this PARTICULAR foster parent that I AM dealing with, is "evil". That was not correct, and for that I am very sorry. What you read was me 'venting' my own frustrations. My intentions are NOT to offend anyone.
IN MY PARTICULAR case, I AM a qualified Physician's Assistant student, with 5 biological healthy, happy, and well taken care of children, my husband makes 6 figures and provides well for our family, and we have been approved 2 times by county and HAVE an approved adoptive home study, AND are relatives by blood, who have LIVED with this child for the first 10 months of his life while caring for him, and we have requested placement of him since he was 17 months old and FIRST taken into the system and it has been OVER a year, and the foster parents ARE pushing for their own needs to be met and HAVE fibbed or exaggerated when it came to his "behaviors" AND they have had PHYSICAL abuse happen to MY nephew in their home more than 4 times that are documented. (I capitalize not to yell but to stress the facts.
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I am TRYING to be patient with a system that is terribley flawed and there ARE good and bad on both sides of the coin. NOT evil but selfish may be the better word here. I am human and will make mistakes, I will work on my verbage, thank you for pointing that out.
I try hard to stress that these are my issues and my opinions but as a Christian, even I will have sometimes HUGE flaws
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In no way are foster parents bad for wanting to protect a child, in no way is a foster parent bad for wanting to adopt.........but in this case......it is NOT OK for these particular foster parents to put their want for another child ahead of the child's right to his blood family who can provide and care for him. The system is at fault first, for NOT moving him ASAP.
I hope that you can see my intentions are NOT to anger or hurt anyone here, I am trying to navigate through a system that is broken and do the right things. Our situations may be very different, and in no way am I lumping all foster parents OR relatives together or even SW, there are good, better, and worse of all.
Again I apologize for any hurt feelings. I try not to read into other's posts as I read. If I did, every time I saw TPR was today or adoption finalized today.............by an adoptive family I would be angered or saddened for the relatives and birth parents (but I know that in all cases are VERY different.) There is no one size fits all here but a case by case set of rules............IF the rules are playing fair and REALLY putting the child's best interest first.
Respectfully,
