[Gwen72]

The baby was born today! It's a boy. He was 36 weeks gestation today but the emom has been having problems with blood pressure and the baby did not have enough fluid around him. DH and I have been talking to emom a few times a week since the original post. She had not told anyone else she was keeping the baby so I was hoping we had all had a misunderstanding. She had said that she wanted DH and I here for the delivery and for us to have unlimited access to the baby. DH and I both worked over 12 hours yesterday then drove over here (3 hours) got about 4 hours sleep and picked emom up at 7:00 this am. Everything was fine. Then her family showed up and she suddenly decided she wanted her cousin to be the only person to have access to the baby and get info from the doctors and nurses. The cousin even told her she thought we should have the unlimited access, but emom said she wanted the family to be able to see the baby. Now, we have been talking to her several times a week since September so she knows us very well and we are planning an OA including visits so she had no reason to think I would keep anyone from seeing that baby and I gently reminded her of this. She still refused to let the staff put DH and myself as the contact person. On the surface I would not have a problem with that but her family has not taken her to 1 appointment (there were three vehicles in the driveway when we went to get her this morning). They don't watch her daughter when she has an appointment and they wouldn't watch her daughter while she's in the hospital having this baby. One of the social workers from the agency is keeping her daughter for her through Sunday. They haven't lifted one finger for her but when the boy was born I had to go look at him through the glass with all the other visitors while the family got to meet him and the nurses couldn't tell me a thing. One nurse turned the paperwork and left it so I could see a few things but she was very discreet about it. Once the baby was born the family left. They were at the hospital about 1/2 hour total. DH and I (who had been there since 7:00am after getting 4 hours sleep) stayed so that when she came out of surgery I could tell her the baby was OK and let her know we were still there. The hospital social workers are upset, the agency people are upset, the recovery room nurse was even upset. The earliest mom can sign is Friday and we are going to stay here until then. I will let you all know if and when he is officially ours. Keep sending baby dust and prayers this way please!