[HappyHopefulMommy]

We were looking for a sibling set and had an 8 yr. old bio daugther. We also said absolutley NO to sexual abuse. We were placed with a sib set of 3. There was no sexual abuse disclosed to us and our worker knew it was not ok with us. Well, one month after placement we were reading their files in great detail and read about the 2 older ones acting out (ages 6 and 5). I was SO freaked out. Our worker was so calm and acted like it was no big deal, that almost all the kids in the system and exposed to it somewhere. Our kids were not sexual acting out here, but were in a previous foster home. Long story short, we still have the kids and are preparing to adopt them in a few months. I was very nervous about having a boy only 18 months younger than my bio daugther who had acted out. But, so far - not an issue. We watch it closely, we do not think they were sexual abused, just exposed to some stuff. If I had known though, we most likely would have said, "no thank you" to these kids. But, I am glad it turned out the way it did, these are my kids and we love them to death. I do not know if that helps. PM if you would like to.