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Since you are in such a new (and rocky) relationship with your bmom, I would wait before contacting your half-sibs. I would concentrate on getting to know your bmom first and trying to establish a level of trust. If that eventually fails, then I would contact your sibs.
There's nothing wrong with snooping in the meantime. I would presume that your sibs don't know your name -- so they wouldn't be likely to look at your myspace page?
I have become quite a snoop myself. I have seen pics of my half-bro and his daughters on his company website. I went to his old high school (in a nearby county) and saw his yearbook photo. I look at homes on zillow and see how much they paid. I even saw interior pics of my half-sis's home on the realty site when her house was being sold. It helps that my half-bro has an unusual last name; my half-sis's married name is very common, and I haven't been able to find any pics of her family members. I also couldn't find her pic in the yearbook -- maybe she went to a different school. I think it is all just a part of the curiosity to find out more about the people to whom we're related.
Oh, I am so terrible. My kids say I've become a stalker. I think we're all entitled to snoop -- we just shouldn't get too obsessed. Snooping is just something I do late at night when I don't feel like going to bed. You shouldn't be in a great hurry to contact your sibs unless you find they are selling their homes and moving out of the country. As long as you know where you can always reach them, I would wait for the right time.
On the other hand, I am bothered that my half-sibs apparently have never looked at my personal website of my artwork. I don't get a lot of traffic, and I can track IP addresses. I don't understand why they don't want to look at my art since it is such an extension of who I am. I guess they don't really care. (If you don't know my story from other posts, my bmom is deceased and my older half-sibs definitely know about me but just want to keep me a secret.)
But I know how you feel. I see the online pics and I just want to reach out and give them a hug...but I can't...it's all so hard.
You know they're there, and someday the time will be right.
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