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It's hard. I hope that as the days go on, you are feeling better about your decision. I think Michelle put it well when she said that your, "no" might give the right family the opportunity to say "yes."
We turned down one placement with a little boy because he had immune system problems that we felt unable to deal with. We still think about him often and ask our sw how he's doing. I think those children do stay with us. The hardest situations are the ones where you lean one way or another but can't feel completely sure and confident about your decision.
In these situations, sometimes I try to visualize changing my mind. I try to really imagine how I would be feeling. As hard as it was to say no - and we had met this little boy - the feelings I had when I imagined saying yes were a good mix of panic and nervousness. That's how I know I wasn't the right person to be his mom.
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