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I comend your choice to pursue teen adoption. I too am adopting an older child (12) from foster care. I think you may have gotten offendend accidentally. It is fair to regulate some of what teenage children see/ hear / and of course do. However, the reality is that at 15 his tastses are probably somewhat set. If certain things are not allowed, he then becomes conflicted about what he likes vs. wanting a family. At 15 what you like/ dislike is a pretty strong part of your self image. If you really can't live with 75% and regluate 25% of what he is interested in then he may not be a good fit for your family. While he is able to contribute to the deiscion, you are still the adults who have to decide. I would be willing to expect that he will contin ue to pursure interests you don't like outside of home, or clandestinly in your home. (Sorry for bad spelling)
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Oct 14 08- TX DPFS Orientation
Nov 8- Dec 20- PRIDE Class
Jan 6 09- Finger Prints
Jan 31- Drug Handling Class
March 11- Home Eval Meeting
April 1- CW admmits to having lost file, having then found file, and having turned it in today.
April 1- Behavior intervention class
April 2- Homestudy Call
April 7- Final Homestudy Meeting
May 1- Homestudy sumbitted to state of TX
June 4- APPROVED!
July 2nd-Submitted interest in R (7)
July 7- Recieved HESGH
Aug 12-RAS (rep'ed by my old PRIDE trainer)
Aug 13- Selected to be Mom to R (7 yr old girl!)
Aug 18-Read File (both boxes full!)
Aug 20- start pre-placement communication
Aug 28- no visit/come home 
Oct 20 09- Finalize! 
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