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I was talking to a coworker yesterday morning about this subject. I could tell that she was trying to get it but was having trouble. She said she could not underestand why they just didn't give us the records without the names being there. My comment was I felt we deerserved to know our name at birth, that we should have completly open records and that when others names are sealed, like hers(she is very proud of her maiden name, very much into heritage) then I will concede mine being sealed. She said ...."I guess when you put it like that I see it differntly". I told her how when my brother when in front of the judge and got his orginal name how the judge threatened to throw him in jail if he made any contact....ummm..just because he was BORN he was treated as a criminal! How my sister stood in front of the judge and was made to feel like she was doing something wrong because she wanted HER information, HER name, HER BC. How I felt I needed to beg the judge to get my informantion, even though she was very good about it I still felt like "please sir can you spare me a dime" kind of feeling I as I stoold in front of this women who decided that there was nothing there to hurt me....(I was almost thirty, can I figure that out for myself).
It is very much ingrained in our society that everyone else knows what is best for us because we don't have the ability to know....it goes from out aparents(even the best ones), to our bparents, friends , family and general society.
I do see it slowly changing...peole are starting to see the implications of shutting keeping someones idenity from them with the false thought that it is protecting others.but it is very slow.
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