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Similar thing here. We got pg while in process. I didn't want to be pg at that time. I wanted to focus on the adoption process and our ds.
Not to mention I've been pg many, many times and at that time I hadn't had any success thru pg. Plus we were afraid our adoption might not go thru... it was a terrifying time. I thought I'd lose both and completely go insane (having gone thru years of failures before even getting to adoption). I was also worried about both arriving so close together. That I wouldn't have the ability to take care of both a newborn and a toddler that needed extra attention to get thru the attachment process.
And you're right. There is an "identity" that comes with infertility. It takes a long time to sort out what you've been thru. Pg turns that on its head.
Be prepared for the "I KNEW you'd get pg! That happens ALL THE TIME!" comments. Ugh.
Other than that, just hang in there. It will get better. A year from now it will just be your new "normal life."
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LJR
Mom to two awesome sons...
10/13/06 - Signed with agency for Guatemala
12/04/06 - Zack's referral, DOB 8/15/06
07/05/07 - Visit trip. Found out I was pregnant the same day we met Zack.
02/23/08 - Surprise bio son, Clayton born!
04/15/08 - Zack finally home forever!
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