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I do not share the fact that I'm adopted and searching for my birthparents with anyone except my husband and children. The reason I don't tell people about this is because first of all, it's a personal thing and I do tend to be a somewhat private person by nature. Another reason is that I guess part of me is afraid that people will react as if this is some highly contraversial thing I'm doing - something "Jerry Springer" like & they may look down on me. That whole situation would be upsetting so I simply avoid it by not sharing my story with others.
I did however tell my closest friend recently and she was shocked that I'm not able to simply request my birthparents' names and get them. She couldn't believe that adult adoptees have to jump through so many hoops attempting to get the names of our parents. She is not a part of the adoption triangle and yet she said that if she was adopted she would want to know who her parents are too. She was very understanding & I was comforted by that. She does have a heart of gold and is also a very smart woman (this is why she is my closest friend). So I'm thinking that the response received highly depends on the person.
Maybe in time, depending on how this long-winded search of mine pans out, I may choose to tell others. I think it would be a good think to "break the silence" of adoption and the unfairness of sealed records for adult adoptees. For now, it's nice to be able to share in these forums with people who are far more understanding than the general public.
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