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Something happened to me the other day. A friend asked me to do something that would have taken a time commitment that I did not have. I was honest and said no, but I felt guilty. I kept thinking I should call her back and say yes. But at the same time I also kept thinking my no was the right answer. I talked to her a little while later and she said that she had contacted another person to do what she was asking and that person was very excited and she had been wanting to do something like this. So it hit me--my answer of no gave the right person the opportunity to say yes.

You were moved to say no for a reason. If you had said yes with reservations, you would not be allowing the right family to say yes. And you would not be allowing your family to be waiting and preparing for the right child for your family that is to come.

This must be so hard for you. I am sure it will take a while.

Best wishes,
Michelle