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Originally Posted by D28Bob
Since I got seriously into my search, I am finding that many people still feel this way. Most are just amazed at the barriers in our way, but can't understand why we would want to know. This ignorance and misunderstanding is a prime reason why it is so hard to get legislation opening records - the belief that women who have children out of marriage are sluts and want to hide it, I guess. Any ideas how we can reverse this?
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It IS ignorance and misunderstanding, and unfortunately some of that ignorance and misunderstanding even divides members of the adoption Triad.
Some think only "angry, crazy adoptees", or those who were abused want to search.
Some think the ones who DONT search are "angry, crazy adoptees". It's a personal choice, and I feel, a RIGHT for us to know where we came from.
This is my answer to the misunderstood, when they say things like, "Oh, my...how do your paents feel about this?"
I tell them "for me to NOT want to know where I came from and NOt want to know my natural family goes against EVERYTHING my adoptive family taught and feel about love."
The one barrier (and very POWERFUL lobbying group) that baffles me is the pro-life movement. They detest open records for adoptees and strongly fight any legislation to open records. Their myths have been debunked time after time, (here's an article, there are so many out there)
National study backs open adoption records
Unfortunately, money talks...I just write congress, or whomever else will listen.
Good luck with your search. Ive learned to be very selective with whom I share this journey...they most likely will not get it.