[D28Bob]

Although my adoptive parents were always open about the fact my sister and I were adopted, it was a subject seldom discussed (and they knew nothing about my origin anyway.) But the feeling I always got from society was that searching was taboo - it was something only crazy, sick people would do. It made it emotionally VERY difficult to even mail the papers to the court.

Since I got seriously into my search, I am finding that many people still feel this way. Most are just amazed at the barriers in our way, but can't understand why we would want to know. This ignorance and misunderstanding is a prime reason why it is so hard to get legislation opening records - the belief that women who have children out of marriage are sluts and want to hide it, I guess. Any ideas how we can reverse this?