This is the woman who "helped" or "supported" your Dad in abandoning you?
I can only imagine she has much guilt with that.
I'll bet she has great fear that the same thing could happen to her and her daughter. Hey, it happened once, could happen again.
You know, karma.
Selfish, jealous, possesive, insecure people are nearly impossible to deal with.
NEVER let them get in your way.
I tend to be mean to people that are mean to me, I could see myself telling nancy
"Awww what's the matter Nancy, are you afraid I am going to do to you what you did to me????"
But DON'T do that LOL I get in trouble all the time.
Nancy seems to be acting out the same fears as many adoptive mothers have at reunion,
in that she can't see the good that is happening for others, she is only concerned with herself and what she wants, or what she might loose.
and I can only imagine that she might be jealous of your dad because he has a healthy beautiful daughter to love, and that loves him.
Although she does seem to be in a very vunerable spot, elderly with a sick daughter.
She must feel that she and her daughter need all of your dad's attention and love, and maybe money.
If he shares any with you then in her mind he would be "cheating" on her.
I wonder if there is anything you or your Dad could do to make her feel more secure?
Keep reaching out, it won't hurt if you don't let it.
Reunion is supposed to be a celebration of knowing each other again, not sabbotage.
Nancy is wrong and I hope she sees it soon for everyones sake.
I hope your Dad can stand up to her.
I too have had to sneak around my mothers husband some to talk to her.
I hate that feeling, I feel like I am the other woman. My mom's other woman LOL
Regardless, I'll do what I need to do to see my mom, even if I have to crawl on my belly thru mud with creepy crawling things in the dark, with bullets flying and attack dogs, flame throwers, razor wire, thru flooded rivers, snake pits, over icy mountains with wolves and bears and the possibility of death at every turn...... i could go on, but I think you get my drift.
Congrats on finding and getting to know your Dad, what a wonderful thing to celebrate
