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I know EXACTLY how you feel. After 18 months and 4 rounds of invitro, including 2 miscarriages, we started the adoption process. Our paperwork cleared mid-July, we were matched 3 days later with a emom who's baby was due in November. At the end of August I found out I was pregnant. I was actually pretty unhappy for a while. To begin with, I wasn't remotely sure the pregnancy would stick, but more importantly, I just wanted to focus all my energy on the child we would be adopting and were so invested in. Ultimately, my pregnancy held and I was just at 12 weeks when I was cutting our oldest son's cord. The guys are 6 months apart. Additionally, when our middle guy was 6 months old, our oldest son's birthparents contacted us about another baby so in all we have 3 boys, in 18 months.
My only advice is, to the best of you ability, focus on the child you have, not the one you may have, until you have a better sense of the outcome. I just tried not to think too much about my pregnancy at all other then to take good care of my health. It was frustrating, I wanted to paint the new baby's room and couldn't, I was tired and swelling etc. At the beginning I was really more frustrated then happy. I also wanted to be as well prepared as I could be emotionally if the pregnancy failed.
As for the adoption/pregnancy comments, buckle up, they will be endless. I am fairly certain people will still be telling me I got pregnant becuse we adopted when my kids are 30.
I could not have planned what happened but I am forever grateful for the outcome.
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