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Old 11-22-2008, 08:56 PM
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I don't think couples should get married for baby's sake, including adopted ones. And right now getting married is not on our minds

I was just thinking, that that coment isn';t my favorite. A lot of things I think should be done for a baby's sake. If not, why would I have placed my child for adoption in the first place. Maybe we should do some things for the ones we love? I'd rather have an unmarried couple than a gay married couple adopt my child though. That probably sounds harsh, but I just want the best for my daughter. And old fashoned me, thinks that comes from a man and woman in a married secure household. I want a abiding document of intention for both partners to be a present in my child's life, for their entire life. I don't want anyone coming and going and forming attachments, then breaking them with her. That's just my opinion. If you went to an agency where the birth moms choose the parents, I would just expect that you would not get very many girls choosing you if you are unmarried. The 30 women I lived with during my pregnancy, were all just as picky as me (if not more!) So you might want to take that into consideration? Best of luck though! I can tell your heart is in the right place.
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